African
Tradition
Jumping the Broom is a custom that
originated as the symbolic jumping the doorway,
or threshold from a carefree single life into
the responsibilities of domestic life and a
future together. Tying
the Knot means that the couple is actually bound
together at the wrists during the ceremony,
linking them together symbolically. The bride,
as a symbol of modesty, will hide her face
behind a veil of braided hairAs an offer to the
gods to join in the celebration, wine is poured
onto the ground.
Amish
Tradition
The
wedding ceremony of the Amish are plain and
wonderfully simple. The bride and groom
personally deliver to each guest an invitation
to their bonding. The wedding is planned to be
celebrated after the harvesting season, so all
can attend, usually in the middle of the week.
The ceremony is simple, as is the Bride’s dress,
which is new, but something ordinary that could
be worn to church on Sunday.
Argentinian
Tradition
Bridesmaids, a maid of honor, or a best
man have never been part of a traditional
wedding in Argentina. The mother of the groom,
and the father of the bride escort the couple
getting married down the church aisle, and then
stand beside them through the wedding ceremony. It
is an Argentinean wedding tradition for the
couple to exchange their wedding rings at the
engagement, and not during the marriage vows.
Australian
Tradition
Australia
Wedding fashions have changed over the years,
but the white wedding dress is still
traditionally worn by brides in Australia,
reflecting a custom which dates back many
centuries. A bible is often given as a wedding
gift, which is kept as a precious souvenir for
future generations. The traditions which are
known and loved in the western world are all
present here – the wedding cake, the exchange of
rings and the reception with friends and family.
Australian weddings will often bring together
extended family members, and a couple’s marriage
will provide a wonderful opportunity for
everyone to celebrate the start of their new
life together
Austrian
Tradition
In the past when the marriage proposal
was a more formal procedure, the prospective
groom sent his friend or members of the family
to represent his interests to the prospective
bride and her family. If the saw a blind man, a
monk or a pregnant woman it was thought that the
marriage would be doomed if they continued their
journey as these sights were thought to be bad
omens. If, however, they saw goats, pigeons or
wolves these were good omens which would bring
good fortune to the marriage. It was thought
unlucky for a woman to marry a man whose surname
began with the same letter as hers. The
sentiment was summarised in the following rhyme:
“To change the name and not the letter, is to
change the worst and not the better.” The
bride should not practise writing her new name
before the wedding. This is thought to bring bad
luck by tempting fate.
Although
most weddings take place on a Saturday it was
considered unlucky in the past. Fridays were
also considered unlucky particularly Friday the
13th. The famous old rhyme advises a wedding in
the first half of the week: “Monday for
wealth, Tuesday for health, Wednesday the best
day of all, Thursday for losses, Friday for
crosses, Saturday for no luck at all.” It is
thought unlucky for the bride to make her own
wedding dress. It is also unlucky for the groom
to see the bride in her wedding dress before
until she arrives the ceremony. The bride should
not wear her entire outfit before the wedding
day. Some brides leave a final stitch on the
dress undone until it is time to leave for the
ceremony when the outfit is completed.
Traditionally, brides have been thought to be
particularly vulnerable to evil spirits and many
of the customs and traditions associated with
weddings are to provide protection.
A
combination of red and white flowers is avoided
by the superstitious because they stand for
blood and bandages. The groom often chooses a
flower for his buttonhole which also occurs in
the bride’s bouquet. This is a vestige of the
time when a knight would wear his lady’s
colour to display his love. When the bride is
ready to leave the house for the wedding
ceremony a last look in the mirror will bring
her good luck. However returning to the mirror
once she has began her journey will result in
bad luck. Seeing a chimney sweep on the way to a
wedding is thought to bring good luck and it is
still possible to hire one to attend wedding
ceremonies. Other good luck omens when seen on
the way to the ceremony include spiders, black
cats and rainbows. Bad weather on the way to the
wedding is thought to be an omen of an unhappy
marriage, although in some cultures rain is
considered a good omen. Cloudy skies and wind
are believed to cause stormy marriages, snow on
the other hand is associated with fertility and
wealth.
Bridesmaids
were dressed in a similar way to the bride. The
bridesmaids were thought to act as decoys to
confuse evil spirits and thus protect the bride.
It
is said that the first partner who buys a new
item after the wedding will be the dominant one
in the relationship. Many brides ensure that
they make the first purchase by arranging to buy
a small item such as a pin from a bridesmaid
immediately after the ceremony.
Belgian
Tradition
A traditional Belgian bride carries a
special handkerchief, as part of her wedding
outfit, on the day of her marriage. She might
embroider her name on it, carry it with her on
her day of matrimony, and then pass it down to
one of her sisters as a family heirloom.
Bermuda
Tradition
Wedding cakes of islanders are topped
with a tiny sapling. After the wedding
reception, the newlyweds plant the young tree at
their home, where they watch it grow, as their
marriage grows.
Chilean
Tradition
A
traditional Chilean wedding custom calls for the
couple getting married to exchange wedding rings
when the engagement proposal takes place. Until
the wedding vows at their marriage ceremony, the
couple will wear their wedding bands on their
right hands. Once they have become man and wife
the rings are switched to their left hands.
Chinese
Tradition
The invitations sent to the guest are
wrapped in red gift-wrap, as the traditional
colors of happiness and wealth are red and gold.
Any gifts of money to the newlyweds are
presented in red envelopes for the same reason.
Gold jewelry -filled purses are also presented
to the bride by women relatives and close
friends to portray her new status. During the
ceremony both bride and groom pay homage and
respect to their parents and elders for the
guidance and wisdom they have bestowed
upon them. After the ceremony, firecrackers are
lit to chase any evil spirits and demons away
from the couple. During the reception the bride
will be presented in typically at least three
different wedding outfits.
Croatian
Tradition
On the wedding day of a Croatian couple,
the bride’s family may playfully try to stall
the groom from arriving at the church with his
intended, by putting up different obstacles in
the couple’s path. After
the traditional Croatian wedding ceremony and
marriage vows have taken place, female relatives
remove the bride’s wedding veil and replace it
with a scarf and apron while singing to her.
This symbolizes the new bride’s status as a
wife. Then all of the guests walk three times
around a well which represents the holy trinity,
and throw apples into it, to ensure the
newlywed’s fertility.
Cuban
Tradition
Cuban wedding receptions are famous for
their festivities. There is almost always lively
music and dancing at a Cuban marriage
celebration. Wedding guests partake in the
traditional money dance, where each man who
dances with the new bride must pin money to her
dress, to help the newlyweds with their
honeymoon expenses. Along with receiving wedding
presents, it is customary for the Cuban bride
and groom to give each guest a favor, to remind
them of this joyous occasion.
Cypress
Tradition
Money
is pinned to the bride and groom throughout
their first dance at most wedding receptions in
Cyprus. The ‘pin money’ is used by the couple to
help get them started in their new life
together.
Czech
Tradition
The
friends of a traditional Czech bride might plant
a tree in her yard, then decorate it with
colored ribbons and painted eggshells. Legend
believed the bride would live as long as the
tree. The night before her wedding day, her
friends would also give her a crown of rosemary
to represent wisdom, love, loyalty and
remembrance. Before the marriage vows take place
an infant is laid on the couple’s bed, to bless
and enhance their fertility. The bride-to-be is
also given three covered dishes containing wheat
for fertility, millet mixed with ashes that she
must sift through to prove her patience, and the
third hides a sparrow under the lid. After the
Czech marriage ceremony, the new bride’s wedding
veil is switched for a traditional matron’s
bonnet, and the reception guests sing a Czech
wedding song.
Danish
Tradition
In Denmark, there is a traditional
wedding custom of building an arch of pine
branches, called the Gate of Honor, in front of
the bride’s family home. Another Gate of Honor
is built when the couple celebrates their silver
anniversary. At some point during the marriage
celebration the groom will disappear and the
male guests all kiss the new bride. After the
groom returns his bride eventually leaves the
room and all of the female guests kiss him.
At
a traditional Danish reception the guests will
all gather around the groom, during the dancing
and festivities, to cut his tie and socks with
scissors. The Danish marzipan ring cake is the
customary wedding cake in Denmark. Also called
the cornucopia cake, it is made with almonds,
pastilage and marzipan. On the outside, the cake
is beautifully decorated with sugar work. On the
inside it is filled with fresh fruit, candy and
almond cakes. To avoid bad luck, the newlyweds
cut the cake together as a married couple and
all of the reception guests must eat a piece.
Dutch
Tradition
The roots of the customary bridal shower
originated in Holland. If a Dutch bride was
unfortunate enough enough to have her father not
approve of her choice in husbands, he would not
offer a dowry. Her friends would then
“shower” her with gifts so she could
still be married to her groom., without the help
of her father. The families of the Dutch bride
and groom host a party before the day of the
wedding vows. Traditionally, the couple sit on a
throne, beneath the pines, as their guests come
to bless them and wish them happiness.
Dutch
wedding receptions are famous for serving heavy
foods. Two traditional items served at a
marriage celebration in Holland are sweetmeats
called, “bridal sugar” and spiced wine
known as “bride’s tears.” After a
Dutch wedding, newlyweds in Holland might plant
lilies-of-the-valley around their house. This
tradition symbolizes “the return of
happiness” and the couple can then
celebrate and renew their love with each
blooming season.
Early
American Tradition
Wedding
gowns of Victorian brides were accessorized with
gloves, symbols of modesty and romance. Without
the ‘g’, they were ‘a pair of loves’. They still
compliment with very formal wedding dresses for
modern American brides today, and they are
customary bridal accessories of princesses.
Egyptian
Tradition
As in the past, many weddings in Egypt
are still arranged, and the tradition of the
groom’s family proposing to the bride is often
practiced. Just before the marriage vows begin
there is a musical wedding march called the
Zaffa. There is traditional Egyptian music,
belly dancers, drums horns and performers with
flaming swords. Traditionally, Egyptians
believed that the ring finger has the “vein
amoris”, the vein of love, which runs
straight to the heart.
English
Tradition
The English wedding celebration begins
on the way to the ceremony, as young girls
scatter flower petals along the path the bride
is walking, in hopes of providing a happy path
in life. On one bent arm, the bride carries a
horseshoe decorated with ribbons, to bestow on
her good luck. The traditional wedding cake is a
fruitcake, and the top tier is called the
“christening cake”, which is saved for
the baptism of the couples first child. The cake
is typically made of raisins, ground almonds and
cherries and topped with special candies called
marzipan.
Fiji
Tradition
In Fiji, it is customary for a groom to
present a valuable gift to his bride’s father.
Traditionally, this present should be a whale’s
tooth, symbolizing status and wealth.
Filipino
Tradition
Engagement
traditions and marriage rituals are very
important to Filipino culture. At one time, as a
way of proposing matrimony, a man would throw a
spear at the front of the house of the girl he
wished to marry. This act would symbolize her
unavailability, and begin the Filipino
engagement process. The groom and his family
would then go together to the bride’s family to
ask for her hand in marriage. Traditionally, a
Filipino bride would wear her best dress on her
day of matrimony. Her groom would wear the
customary marriage clothes of black pants and an
embroidered shirt, made of an almost translucent
fabric. Orange blossoms used for wedding
bouquets and church decorations were, and still
are, very popular.
Today,
a bride getting married in the Philippines might
wear a white wedding dress on her day of
matrimony, while her groom could be wearing a
black tuxedo. There are many witnesses or
sponsors at the wedding ceremony, who have
various responsibilities. The first witnesses
pin the bride’s veil to the groom’s shoulder to
symbolize the couple being clothed as one. Next,
they hang a white cord around the couple’s necks
which represents the eternal bond between them.
Then, two candles are lit on either side of a
unity candle, which the couple getting married
light together. Lastly, the groom gives his
bride thirteen coins that have been blessed by
the priest for a life of faithfulness and
prosperity. The traditional marriage celebration
dance is the Pandango. Reception guests pin
money to the newlyweds to help pay for the
honeymoon. Often times, there is a bird cage
decorated as a wedding bell with white doves
inside. The newlyweds release the birds,
symbolizing the bride and groom going off
together in peace.
French
Tradition
The traditional bridal trousseau, or
hope chest, originated in France and came from
the French word trousse, meaning bundle. The
popularity of a bride wearing a white wedding
gown on her day of matrimony, began in France
several hundred years ago. The custom of having
fragrant flowers as decorations and bridal
bouquets has also been popular for centuries.
Each flower represents a special and unique
meaning to the bride and groom, and especially
fragrant flowers helped freshen things up a bit,
before deodorant and perfumes were invented.
Wedding bells in France were usually heard in
spring and summer when it was warm enough for
everyone to bathe!
Still
practiced in small villages today, is a
traditional French custom, for the groom to call
on his future bride at her home on the morning
of their wedding day. As he escorts her to the
wedding chapel, the town’s children stretch
white ribbons across the road, which the bride
cuts. The groom usually walks his mother down
the aisle just prior to the main wedding
procession. As the newlywed couple departs from
the wedding site, laurel leaves are scattered in
their path for them to walk over.
A
wedding toast is made to the newlyweds sometime
during the traditional French wedding reception.
Following this toast, they drink, as husband and
wife, from a specially engraved, double handled
goblet, usually a precious family heirloom
passed down from generation to generation. After
the wedding reception, and even later into the
couple’s wedding night, friends of the newlyweds
might show up outside their window banging pots
and pans, singing boisterous tunes. The groom is
expected to invite them in for drinks and
snacks.
Greek
Tradition
Ancient Greek brides wore traditional
wedding veils of yellow or red, which
represented fire. These brightly colored veils
were supposed to protect the bride from evil
spirits and demons. In ancient Greece, diamonds
were considered teardrops of the Gods, and it
was believed that a diamond reflected the flames
of love. A Greek bride may carry a lump of sugar
on her wedding day to ensure she has a sweet
life, or she might carry ivy, as a symbol of
endless love. A traditional Greek Orthodox
marriage includes the celebration of the formal
engagement.
On
the day of the Greek wedding ceremony, the groom
asks the bride’s father for his daughter’s hand
in marriage. The groom’s best man then
accompanies the couple to the church, to be
married. The best man, along with the priest, is
in charge of the ceremony. He places gold crowns
or wreathes made of orange blossoms on the heads
of the bride and groom. These crowns or wreathes
are linked by a silk ribbon. For the rest of
their wedding day the newlyweds are honored as
king and queen. The traditional Greek wedding
reception is usually a huge party and can last
through the night. There is feasting, drinking
and dancing, which includes the famous Greek
circle dance. Dishes are smashed on the floor
for good luck and money is thrown at the
musicians. Candy coated almonds, called Bom Bom
Yara are served to the guests as reception party
favors.
Hungarian
Tradition
Along with the exchanging of wedding
rings, it is customary for a Hungarian bride to
give her groom a wedding present of
handkerchiefs, usually three or seven, which are
believed to be lucky numbers. In return, the
Hungarian groom gives his bride a bag of coins.
During a Hungarian wedding reception all of the
male guests may dance with the bride. If they
give her coins, she will give them a kiss in
return.
Icelandic
Tradition
Wedding receptions in Iceland feature
wedding cake called kransakaka. This lovely cake
is made by creating ‘wedding rings’ of almond
pastry of various sizes which are then piled on
top of one another to form a pyramid. Swirls of
white icing decorate each ring, and fine
chocolates or decorative candies fill the
center.
Tradition
of India
Sweets, eggs, and money are woven into
to wedding themes of India. They symbolize,
respectively, a sweet life, fertility, and
prosperity. The Hindu wedding ceremony includes
customary rituals to ward off evil spirits.
After the wedding vows have been exchanged the
groom’s father or brother showers flower petals
on the newlyweds; then he holds a coconut over
the bride and groom’s heads and circles it
around them three times. An Indian groom often
wears a turban with a veil of flowers streaming
down in front of his face to protect him from
evil spirits. Traditional Indian brides wear
pink and red saris on their wedding day,
adorning themselves extravagantly with as much
jewelry as possible. Henna staining, a customary
art form, is still practiced by Indian brides to
be. On the eve of her wedding vows, following a
traditional ceremonial cleansing, the
bride-to-be will have her hands and feet painted
with henna, in beautiful paisley or medallion
patterns.
Irish
Tradition
The Claddagh wedding tradition
originates from the tale about a man in ancient
Galway. He was soon to become wed and was taken
prisoner by roving sailors and forced into labor
in a foreign land. During that time he taught
himself the art of jewelry-making Upon his
return to his homeland he found his maiden had
never married, and in his happiness, he
fashioned the now famous Claddagh wedding band.
The rings depicts a heart, held by two hands
with a crown over it. Many “lassies”
now wear the Claddagh ring, but only those that
are wed wear it with the hands facing in.
There
are many dances at an Iris wedding, but one of
the more notable is the “janting char”
where the groom is carried in a chair to present
him to the guests. An old Irish tradition calls
for the couple getting married to walk together
to the church together, to exchange their
wedding vows. As they walked down the main
street, to the chapel, onlookers would not only
throw rice to bless the marriage, but larger
items as well, such as pots and pans. The
traditional Irish bride might wear a blue
wedding dress on her wedding day, believing blue
to be a lucky color. English lavender, an herb,
is often mixed with her wedding flower. It is
traditional for the bride to braid her hair, as
this is considered a sacred way to keep feminine
power and luck. St. Patrick’s Day is considered
one of the luckiest wedding anniversary dates in
Ireland.
The
Irish translation for “honeymoon” is
mi na meala, which means the month of honey. It
was an Irish custom for the newlyweds to spend a
month together drinking honeyed wine, secluded,
in case their families tried to separate them.
Especially if they had eloped.
Italian
Tradition
In
the past, Italian wedding engagements were
usually orchestrated by the families of the
bride and groom. Lineage was of the most
importance, and if the bride’s father had any
doubts, negotiations could stop in their tracks.
In some cases, a matchmaker sent a message (masciata)
to the prospective bride’s family of the man’s
hope to marry. If her family found the groom’s
proposal acceptable, there would be wedding
bells and a marriage. Diamond engagement rings
have been popular with Italian brides since the
1400’s. Italians have long held that diamonds
are created by the flames of love. In medieval
Italy, grooms even paid for their brides with
precious stones.
In
preparation for her wedding day, the bride
assembles a trousseau, consisting of household
items, clothing, and sometimes even her future
husband’s clothes to bring to the home of the
groom. Her family provided her with a dowry of
money and possibly domestic goods. Today, this
custom continues in the form of the bridal
shower. In Veneto, it is customary for the
Italian couple getting married to walk to the
wedding chapel together. The townsfolk place
obstacles in the bride’s path to see how she
will react to domestic situations. If she picked
up a broom, for example, she will keep a clean
house. If they put a child in her way and she
stopped to help him, she will be a good mother.
In some regions, the bride and groom must cut a
log in half before they reach the wedding site,
using a double handled saw. This demonstrates
their partnership in love and marriage.
Tying
a ribbon in front of the wedding chapel to
symbolize the bond between the couple getting
married is another popular wedding custom in
Italy. The actual wedding ceremony (sposalizio)
is officiated by a priest or civil authority.
Old church tradition warns against marrying
during Lent and Advent, and marriage is also
avoided in the months of May and August. A
lengthy celebration begins with a mass in the
morning; and the dancing and feasting that
follows may continue well into the wee hours of
the morning. To ward off evil spirits, a groom
in Italy might carry a piece of iron in his
pocket. The bride wears a veil to hide her face
from jealous spirits. Tearing the veil is
considered good luck.
Sunday
marriages are believed to be the luckiest. It is
considered bad luck for a bride to wear any
gold, on the day she is married, until wedding
rings are exchanged. Symbolic foods for
fertility and for good luck are ‘confetti —
candy covered almonds tied in mesh bags to toss
at the couple; and twists of fried dough
powdered with sugar called wanda (bow ties). For
hundreds of years, traditional gourmet Italian
food has been served to wedding reception
guests. Sweet liquor and strong drinks are
served to the guests, by the best man, before
the dinner begins. This gives the guests a
chance to toast the happy couple with “Per
cent’anni” which means, for a hundred
years.
The
menu at an Italian reception is nearly as
important as the wedding itself. Guests may be
served as many as 14 different courses with wine
and other beverages. After dinner, the customary
multi-layered Italian wedding cake is served
with espresso and coffee. The sheer volume of
food reflects how highly anticipated and festive
a typical Italian wedding is. For the
traditional Italian custom of ‘buste’, the bride
will carry a satin bag (la borsa) in which
guests place envelopes of money to defer the
expenses of customarily lavish Italian weddings.
Sometimes the bag is guarded by the bride’s
grandmother during the festivities or the bride
might wear it and allow male guests to put money
in it in exchange for a dance with her.
Before
the reception is over, the bride and groom
usually break a glass. The number of pieces of
shattered glass symbolize the years the happy
couple will share together. At some weddings, a
pair of white doves is released into the air,
symbolizing the couple’s love and happiness. One
popular custom is a toast, usually made by a
male guest after a few glasses of wine. “Evviva
gli sposi” – “hurray for the
newlyweds.” Guests respond with thundering
applause. This toast is shouted whenever there
is a lull in the wedding celebration, renewing
spirits and enthusiasm. “Kiss for the
bride” is another popular Italian toast. It
calls for the bride and groom to stand and show
their affections for all the guests to see.
Japanese
Tradition
Historically, Japanese wedding
ceremonies were performed in Shinto Shrines.
Many of Japan’s wedding sites, therefore,
provide shrines for couples who want to follow
Japanese wedding traditions. The Japanese
bride-to-be is painted pure white from head to
toe, visibly declaring her maiden status to the
gods. The bride wears a white kimono and an
elaborate headpiece covered with many ornaments
to invite good luck to the happy couple. A white
hood is attached to the kimono, which the bride
wears like a veil to hide her ‘horns of
jealousy’ from the groom’s mother, who will now
become the head of the family. Japanese grooms
wear black kimonos to their wedding ceremony.
While
the bride and groom exchange their wedding vows,
their families face each other, instead of the
couple getting married. Central to the
traditional Japanese marriage ceremony is the
ritual of drinking nine cups of sake, after
which newlyweds are considered united. Families
and guests also drink sake, to symbolize the
bonding of the couple as well as of the two
families. The father of the groom, and of the
bride, then introduce their respective family
members. For the wedding reception, the new
bride changes into a red kimono and again later
into a western-style gown. The wedding party and
invited guests engage in games, skits and
karaoke during the wedding reception. Guests are
expected to offer the couple goshugi — money —
in a festive envelope either before or after the
wedding ceremony. Due to better climate, many
Japanese brides prefer spring and fall wedding
dates. Certain wedding anniversaries are thought
to be lucky, so it is common to see dozens of
newlywed couples heading for their honeymoon on
the same day.
Jewish
Tradition
The Jewish Ketubah
Traditional Hebrew wedding ceremonies begin
with the bride and groom signing a marriage
contract, called the Ketubah. The agreement,
which once assured the bride’s legal status,
states the expectations and duties of the couple
once they are married. This beautiful, ornate
document will be framed and displayed in the
couples’ home. After the couple have signed the
Ketubah, the groom lowers his bride’s wedding
veil after studying her face. This wedding
custom recalls the biblical story of Jacob, who
married the wrong woman when she covered her
face with a veil. In the Jewish tradition, the
wedding ring should be simple, a band with no
details, no stones, and nothing engraved, with
nothing to distinguish the beginning from the
end. The rabbi, groom, groomsmen, and Jewish
male guests traditionally wear a white-colored
cap called a yamulkes.
The
Traditional Jewish Wedding Ceremony
The wedding ceremony begins with a
procession of the wedding party members. At the
wedding site, both sets of parents escort the
bride and groom down the aisle. The marriage
ceremony is performed under a special canopy,
called a huppah, which represents God’s
presence, shelter and protection. After
exchanging wedding vows, seven marriage
blessings are read. The groom then steps on a
wine glass, to symbolize the fragility of human
happiness, a hallmark of Jewish history. It is
also traditional for the bride and groom to be
alone together for a few moments immediately
after the ceremony. This tradition, called
yichud, originated so that the marriage could be
consummated, but now it is observed as a lovely
time to be together before the reception. There
is rarely, therefore, a receiving line at a
Jewish wedding.
Favorite
Jewish Wedding Dances
Wedding receptions are joyous celebrations,
with much singing and many traditional dances. A
lively Israeli dance called the Hora is
performed at the wedding reception. While they
hold on to either end of a handkerchief, bride
and groom are lifted into the air on chairs by
their joyful guests, as they are celebrated as
‘king and queen of the night’. A lovely Jewish
custom called the “Krenzl” — which
means ‘crowning’ honors the bride’s mother when
her last daughter is wed. The mother is seated
in the center of the room and is crowned with a
wreath of flowers, then all her daughters dance
around her to a very lively Yiddish song. The
Mizinke is a dance of celebration reserved for
both parents who have just seen their last son
or daughter married. The guests encircle the
mother and father, while bestowing them with
wedding flowers and kisses. Another traditional
dance is called “gladdening of the
bride.” All of the guests at the reception
circle the bride while they dance and sing
praises about her. A Jewish wedding would not be
complete without a sumptuous meal to satisfy the
entire wedding party and guests.
Korean
Tradition
Before a Korean bride may be married,
she must take part in the traditional
Introduction ceremony, where she is accepted
into the groom’s family. After the Korean
newlyweds have exchanged their wedding vows, the
groom, formally, introduces his new wife to his
parents. The groom’s father may throw red dates
at his daughter-in-law to bring her luck in
fertility. A couple getting married in Korea
might incorporate ducks or geese into their
wedding ceremony. Both ducks and geese mate for
life and represent faithfulness. At one time, a
man who wanted to get married in Korea, would
travel to his future bride’s home on a white
pony and present her family with a pair of
geese.
Latvian
Tradition
On
her wedding day, a traditional Latvian bride
must wear her white wedding dress, and veil,
until midnight. The women at the reception
celebration then remove her wedding veil and
pass it down to one of the younger sisters, who
will presumably, marry next. Once her wedding
gown and veil are removed, “the bride”
becomes “the wife,” and she wears a
married woman’s cap. Sometimes, at a Latvian
wedding reception, the new bride is kidnapped by
the groomsmen. The groom must pay a ransom, such
as a song or a round of drinks, to get her back.
Mexican
Tradition
A traditional couple getting married are
sponsored, financially, by their Godparents, to
act as padrinos, sponsors of the wedding. They
are mentors to the bride and groom throughout
their engagement, and even after they are
married. Needless to say, the bride and groom
honor them with a place in the wedding program.
The padrinos may present the couple with a
rosary and a Bible during their wedding
ceremony. During the marriage vows, a white
ribbon or rosary, called a “lasso”, is
wrapped around the necks of the couple, which
represents their joining. It is customary for a
groom to give his wife a wedding present of
thirteen gold coins, which are then blessed by
the priest during the marriage ceremony,
representing the groom’s commitment to support
his new wife. As the newlyweds leave the church,
red beads may be tossed at them, to bring good
luck. At the wedding reception, all the guests
will join hands and form a heart shape around
the newly married couple as they have their
first dance. At a traditional reception, it is
customary for the guests to form a heart around
the newlyweds, as they begin their first dance
as husband and wife. A paper maché container
known as a piñata is suspended from the ceiling
at wedding receptions. It will be shaped like a
heart or an animal. Filled with candy, it is
hung by a string and swatted at by children.
When it breaks, the candy falls out and is
shared among the guests. The wedding cake is,
usually, a fruit cake that has been soaked in
rum.
Moroccan
Tradition
As in other Muslim countries, a
traditional Moroccan wedding ceremony lasts from
four to seven days. On her wedding day, it is a
Moroccan wedding custom for the bride to have a
ceremonial purification milk bath before a
ritual henna painting (Beberiska) of her hands
and feet. Originally, this purification and
painting was the wedding ceremony in Arab lands
some 200 years ago. Modern Moroccan brides
continue this tradition by annointing the palm
of guests with a unique smear, called the henna.
Before she is dressed in her wedding dress,
another woman arranges her hair, applies her
make-up and puts on her jewelry. The bride also
wears an elaborate headpiece with a veil. Once
the couples wedding vows have been exchanged,
and before the newlywed Moroccan bride becomes
the mistress of her new home, she walks around
the outside of her house three times.
Native
American Tradition
The traditional colors woven into the
brides dress point to the four corners of the
earth, White for east, Blue for south, Yellow
for west and Black for north. The bride and
groom wash their hands to symbolically rid
themselves of evil and loves from their past. To
symbolize their bonding ,the couple will share
during their ceremony, a meal of corn
mush, made of both white and yellow corn. The
white represents male and yellow female, joined
together.
New
Zealand Tradition
Church
weddings are the most traditional marriage
celebrations in New Zealand. The bride wears a
white wedding gown and is attended by
bridesmaids. The groom wears a gray or black
suit with a white shirt and tie, and he is
supported by a best man and groomsmen. According
to custom, the groom should not see the bride
before she joins him at the front of the church
on their wedding day. Weddings in New Zealand
may also reflect the traditional culture of the
island. Maori weddings will include a ceremonial
welcome to the bride and groom, known as a
Powhiri, and a traditional warrior challenge.
The wedding ceremony will be conducted by a
tribal elder and the couple will be blessed in
the Maori language. Wedding rings made of carved
bone or greenstone are also popular amongst
those wishing to include the ancient culture of
the Maori people in their wedding. Traditional
Maori ‘infinity loops’ have a spiritual meaning
of never-ending love.
Norwegan
Tradition
After a Norwegian couple exchange their
wedding vows, friends place two small pine trees
on either side of the newlywed’s front door,
until they have a baby. Along with her wedding
gown and sterling jewelry, a Norwegian bride
might also wear a gold and silver crown, covered
with silver charms, which were believed to ward
off evil spirits. Sometime during the wedding
reception in Norway, the the new bride
“dances off” her crown of charms.
Persian
Tradition
An Iranian wedding custom began when the
country was still called Persia. The groom would
purchase the ceremonial wedding dress for his
bride-to-be. This gown consisted of ten feet of
sheeting that he would wrap around his intended
wife. During wedding ceremony, it is an Iranian
custom for a happily married woman to hold a
translucent shawl over the couple’s heads. After
the newlyweds have exchanged their wedding vows,
crumbs from two decorated sugar cones are shaved
over their heads for good luck.
Polish
Tradition
Traditional Rebraiding of the Polish Bride’s
Hair
The night before a girl in Poland hears her
wedding bells, her mother and female relatives
redo her customary single maidenly braid into
two. This traditional wedding hair style
symbolizes the new step the bride-to-be is
taking into marriage.
Polish
Wedding Reception
The reception celebration usually includes
lively polka music and dancing. If a Polish
bride can drink from her glass of wine, and not
spill a drop, she is considered lucky. The
“money dance” is always popular at a
traditional reception in Poland. Guests pin
money to the bride’s wedding dress to buy a
dance from her. The newlyweds might put these
gifts of cash towards their honeymoon expenses.
More traditionally, the maid of honor wears an
apron and collects the money given by the guest
to dance with the bride. After all the guests
have danced with the bride, they form a tight
circle around her, and the groom tries to break
through the circle while the guests try hard to
keep him out. Once he breaks through, he picks
up his bride and carries her away from the
wedding reception. The money collected during
the dance is sent with them to spend on their
honeymoon.
At
the wedding reception, the bride will dance with
her father, whilst a relative holds out an
apron. Guests who place money in the apron win
the opportunity to dance with the bride. After a
time, the groom will throw in his wallet, thus
surpassing all the other contributions. He will
then whisk away his new wife on their honeymoon.
The sharing of bread, salt and wine is an
important feature of weddings in Poland. The
parents of the newly married couple will present
them with rye bread, lightly sprinkled with
salt, and a glass of wine. The bread represents
the hope that the bride and groom will never go
hungry. The salt is a reminder that life may be
difficult at times, but that they will learn to
cope. The wine symbolizes the desire that the
couple will never go thirsty, and that their
lives will be filled with health and happiness.
The
removal of the bridal veil, known as the
oczepiny ceremony, is another traditional
element of a Polish wedding day. The bride’s
veil will be removed as she enters the reception
hall, signifying the end of her maidenhood and
her transition to a married woman. A funny hat
will be placed on the groom’s head, representing
the wish that the marriage will be full of
happiness and laughter.
Puerto
Rican Tradition
While a Priest is performing a
traditional Puerto Rican wedding ceremony, he
blesses a plate of coins and gives them to the
groom. After the wedding vows have been
exchanged, the groom gives the plate of coins to
his bride, which she keeps as a wedding present
from her husband. The gift of coins represent
good luck and prosperity for the newlyweds. At
the traditional Puerto Rican reception it is
customary for a doll, dressed similar to the
bride, to be placed at the head of the main
table. This “bride doll” is covered
with little charms, and are given to the guests
as gifts. “Copias” are also passed out
as presents to guests. These reception favors
are ornately decorated cards with the newlyweds
names and the date of the marriage.
Romanian
Tradition
Young women in Romania begin planning
for their wedding day long before they know who
they will marry. Hopeful, young girls begin
making and collecting accessories for their
trousseau, or hope chest, as early as six years
old. In
the mountains of Romania there is an annual
festival, on June 29th, where families gather to
display their daughter’s trousseau. Instead
of rice, Romanian newlyweds may have candy or
nuts thrown at them by wedding guests.
Russian
Tradition
Russian church weddings are not
considered official, and so couples wanting to
get married must exchange their wedding vows at
a Russian marriage civil ceremony. Here, the
bride and groom receive bread and salt,
symbolizing health, prosperity and long life. The
Russian civil ceremony is often considered
unimportant to friends and relatives of the
bride and groom. The main affair is the wedding
reception, a great two day celebration with
music, dancing, feasting and drinking. Once the
reception celebration has begun, a relative or
close friend will make a wedding toast to the
bride and groom. In keeping with Russian custom,
everyone throws their champagne glasses on the
floor. It is considered good luck if the glasses
break when they hit the ground. When a
traditional Orthodox couple get married in
Russia, they are crowned as royalty for the day.
The bride and groom must stand on a special
carpet as they recite their marriage vows, but
first they race each other to it. Whoever
reaches the carpet first will, presumably, be
the head of the household.
Scottish
Tradition
Traditional Scottish gold wedding bands
date back to the 1500’s, and are still popular
wedding rings today, as are Celtic knotwork
engagement rings. Often, before a Scottish bride
is married, her mother holds an open house for a
traditional “show of presents.”
Similar to a bridal shower, invitations are sent
to the women among those who gave wedding gifts
to the couple. The wedding gifts are unwrapped
and set out with the card of the gift giver. The
occasion is an opportunity for the bride to get
acquainted with the wedding party members and
guests before the wedding. After the show of
presents, bride-to-be is dressed in long trains
made of old curtains or other household
materials. She is given a baby doll, a plastic
potty with salt in the bottom, and other small
items to carry. Her friends and guests escort
her through her town, singing and banging pots
and pans, heralding the bride’s upcoming
nuptials. To gather luck, the bride-to-be
exchanges kisses for money, which is dropped
into the potty.
The
groom, meanwhile, is taken out for a stag night.
The groom is likewise dressed up and taken
around town by male companions, sometimes
looking like a pregnant woman. His companions
often indulge in a great deal of harmless
practical joking, of which the poor groom is the
main target. When the wild night winds down, the
groom is usually left in the street in front of
his home stripped of his clothes and sometimes
even tied up. In the Scottish Highlands, an old
custom known as creeling the bridgegroom was
popular. A large basket (creel) is filled with
stones and is tied to the groom’s back. The
groom was required to carry the weight
throughout the town searching for his bride. If
his bride would come out and kiss him, he would
be relieved of his burden.
Is
is old Scottish custom to begin a marriage
celebration on the eve of the ceremony. Festive
singing, dancing and drinking precedes a
ceremonial foot washing of the bride-to-be. A
wedding ring from a married woman is placed in
the tub of water, and whichever lucky maiden
snatched it during the foot washing it would be
the next to marry. A Scottish bride’s wedding
gown is typically Victorian. She might wear a
horseshoe on her arm for good luck, or a pageboy
might deliver one to her as she arrives at the
chapel. The Scottish groom wears a kilt in the
colors of his clan’s plaid, and he wraps a sash
of this same plaid over his bride’s shoulders,
symbolizing that she is now part of his family.
It is also customary for the groom to present
his bride with an engraved ‘wedding spune’.
On
the wedding day, the entire wedding party starts
out for the church. The first person to be met
by the bride on her way to the wedding site is
given a coin and a drink of whisky. That person,
called the first foot, joins the procession and
walks for about a mile before continuing on his
or her business. Just outside the church doors,
the couple is joined in marriage by a priest.
After the joining, the priest leads the bride
and groom and all the witnesses into the church
for a lengthy nuptial mass conducted in Latin.
The mass ends with the blessing of the food and
drink brought by the guests. Wedding flowers,
petals, or pretty paper confetti are thrown at
the departing bride.
Traditional
wedding reception festivities can easily last
all night. The newly-wedded couple leads off the
dancing with a traditional reel, and the bride’s
second dance is reserved for the person of the
highest rank among the guests. The Sword Dance
is usually performed at a traditional wedding in
Scotland, which is similar to an Irish jig or a
Highland fling. Guests gather in a circle before
leaving the reception site and sing “Auld
Lang Syne”. The entire entourage escorts
the young couple to their new home. Before the
bride enters her new home, an oatcake or bannock
(biscuit made of barley and oat flour) is broken
above her head and a piece of the cake is passed
around to everyone. Then the bride is carried
over the threshold. The priest’s blessing over
the newlyweds, their home, and their marriage
bed culminates the ceremony.
Spanish
Tradition
Orange blossoms have long been the
flower of choice for a girl getting married in
Spain. Since the orange tree bears fruit and
blossoms at the same time it’s flowers represent
happiness and fulfillment. Before
a couple getting married in Spain exchange their
vows in church, the groom gives his bride a
wedding present of thirteen coins. This gift is
a symbol of his commitment to support her. The
bride-to-be then carries these coins, in a
little bag, to her wedding ceremony.
According
to Spanish custom, a Spanish bride wore, and
still might wear, a black silk wedding dress
with an intricately designed black lace veil.
Her groom usually wears an embroidered shirt,
hand made by his future wife. During a Spanish
marriage celebration reception guests
traditionally dance a “sequidillas
manchegas” and present the newlyweds with a
gift.
Sudanese
Tradition
A
bridegroom ceremony is a common wedding practice
in the Sudan. The bridegroom is welcomed to the
wedding site with an auspicious decoration
called the umbul-umbul, a type of ‘wedding
announcement’. The mother of the bride gives the
bridegroom a garland of flowers, welcoming him
into her family. She also gives him a ‘keris’, a
hidden message encouraging him not to be
disheartened while toiling for his family. The
bridegroom welcome is followed by a procession
of ladies with candles, who pray for the
ceremony. The bride and groom sit next to each
other under an umbrella in front of the entrance
to their future home with a veil covering both
of their heads. The umbrella is held over the
couple’s head, serving not only a very practical
purpose by also symbolizing esteem and respect.
The
bride and groom bend forward and kiss the knees
of their parents, a ceremony called sungkem,
asking for forgiveness and blessing and
promising to continue to serve their parents.
This wedding ritual is held in front of a
gargoyle fountain. Water flowing from the
gargoyle suggests the continuous flow of
priceless parental love for their children. A
chosen man and woman, sing a special song called
kidung on behalf of the parents, advising the
couple to treat each other well and to live in
harmony. Kidung also invokes blessing upon the
couple. An egg breaking ceremony, called nincak
endog, requires the couple to stand facing each
other in front of their house. The bridegroom
stands outside the entrance and the bride stands
inside. The ceremony is conducted by the
Sudanese equivalent of an American ‘maid of
honor’, who remains an advisor throughout the
marriage. In this ceremony, seven broomsticks
are burnt and thrown away, dramatizing the
discarding of bad habits which endanger married
life.
The
groom is pronounced master of his house when the
egg is broken. His bride cleans the his foot
with water from a kendi, an earthen water jug
which represents peace. Then she breaks the
kendi and crosses over a log into the house,
demonstrating willing obedience to her future
husband. She is fed a dish of turmeric sticky
rice with yellow spiced chicken to symbolize the
last time the parents of the bride will feed
their daughter. The groom remains outside for
another ceremony, which is enacted before him by
a couple who sing. During this ceremony, the
groom, via the vocalists, requests to enter his
bride’s house, and she consents when he agrees
to confirm his Moslem faith. Having done so, the
couple is given a barbecued spiced chicken to
pull apart on a signal from the ‘maid of honor’.
According to tradition, the one who gets the
larger piece will bring in the larger share of
the family fortune. The ceremony also portrays
the importance of working together to acquire
fortune.
Following
the wedding ceremony, dancers shower the bride
and groom with wedding flowers to insure a
fragrant future for the couple. A sawer, made of
turmeric rice, coins, and candy, is thrown at
the couple. Rice is a symbol of prosperity, and
yellow is for everlasting love. The coins remind
the couple to share their wealth with the less
fortunate, and the candy bestows sweetness and
fragrance upon their marriage. Seven candles are
lit representing the direction the couple should
follow to bring about a happy married life. A
betel nut set near the couple is a reminder that
different customs should not spoil a harmonious
marriage.
Swedish
Tradition
In Sweden, the parent’s of the bride-
to- be practice an old traditional wedding
custom. Before their daughter leaves for the
church to be married, her mother gives her a
gold coin to go in her right shoe, and her
father hands her a silver coin to be placed in
her left shoe. This way they know she will never
go without. After
a Swedish couple exchange their marriage vows on
their wedding day, the new bride will wear three
bands on her wedding finger. One is an
engagement ring, another is her wedding ring and
the third is a ring for motherhood.
Swiss
Tradition
A girl getting married in Switzerland
wears a traditional crown or wreath, which
symbolizes her maidenhood. After the wedding
ceremony, and exchanging of wedding vows, the
wreath is removed and burned. If the crown burns
quickly, the bride is considered lucky. Once the
couple are newlyweds and are living in their new
home, a pine tree is planted in their yard to
represent fertility.
Turkish
Tradition
The
Turkish marriage celebration continues after the
wedding ceremony for several days. The newlywed
bride may return home the morning after her
wedding vows to see her family and friends, who
then might perform a henna ritual on her. A
Muslim wedding program in Turkey lasts from four
to seven days, starting with separate
celebrations of the bride and groom’s families.
From this day on, the couple getting married
cannot see each other until their wedding
ceremony. A Turkish bride might wear a
beautifully embroidered silk wedding dress with
a red velvet cape.
Vietnamese
Tradition
On the morning of a wedding in Vietnam,
the groom’s mother visits the bride’s family and
offers them two gifts. The first is a special
plant, that represents respect, and the second
is pink chalk, which is the color of happiness. On
his wedding day, as the groom heads to collect
his bride, he picks up friends and family along
his way. They arrive at his future wife’s house
bearing wedding presents of jewelry, clothing
and money.
Welsh
Tradition
The Welsh Love Spoon
A courting tradition in Wales, that has been in
practice for years, is the carving of a wooden
love spoon. A man who wished to marry a
particular girl carves various symbols, such as
hearts, keys or bells, into a wood spoon,
showing his intentions for engagement and
marriage.
Traditional
Kidnapping of the Bride
It is a marriage custom, in Wales, for the
bride’s family to kidnap her just before the
wedding ceremony. The groom and his family
follow in pursuit and whoever rescues the
bride-to-be will marry within a year.
The Customary Bridal Bouquet and Wedding
Dress Pin
A Welsh bridal bouquet usually contains
myrtle, and the bride gives to her bridesmaids a
cutting of myrtle — a symbol of love — to
carry in their bouquets. Welsh tradition holds
that if the bridesmaid plants her myrtle and it
blooms, she will soon marry. A bride in Wales
may wear a pin in her wedding gown, that she
will remove and throw over her shoulder for good
luck.
West
Indies Tradition
Wedding receptions of the French West
Indies are likely to feature curried goat and
white rice. A traditional rum-flavored wedding
cake is hidden from guests with a fine white
table cloth. Wedding guests must pay for a lucky
peek.
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Wedding Traditions
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