Every culture has its own wedding ceremony. Every step of the process can be different. In some cultures, the ceremonies are held in a modern way while in others the ceremonies are held in a more traditional way. China is one of the countries where the traditional ceremonies are preferred.

In China, the traditional wedding ceremony is a long process which is called three letters and six etiquettes. The three letters are the bethrotal letter, the gift letter, and a wedding letter. The bethrotal letter can be defined as the letter that tells the engagement. There must be a bethrothal letter in the marriage. The second letter, the gift letter, is the list of gifts for the brides family if the marriage is accepted. The wedding letter is the letter that is given to the brides family on the wedding day to show the acceptance of the bride to the grooms family.

The six etiquettes is part of the process in the final wedding ceremony.

Proposal – When the grooms family finds a good match for the groom, they invite a matchmaker to propose to the future-bride in her house.

Birthday Match – When the grooms family knows the girls full name and birthday, they ask the fortuneteller whether shes a good match for their son or not. The fortuneteller takes Chinese zodiac into consideration when trying to figure out if this is a perfect match. The bride and the grooms birth dates should match in order to be able to continue in the process.

Bethrothal Gifts Presentation – If the fortuneteller says that this match is a good one, the matchmaker presents the bethrothal gifts to the girls parents and lets them know that the wedding process will continue.

Wedding Gifts Presentation – This is the most important etiquette of the whole engagement process. Plentiful gifts are presented to the girls parents to show them respect and kindness.

Wedding Day Determination – In this point of the process, the grooms family, again, asks the fortuneteller to determine the wedding day.

Wedding Ceremony – The groom and his friends go to the brides house and meet her there. Before the wedding day, brides dowry is sent to the grooms house. The dowry represents the brides social status and wealth.

The Wedding Day

In China, color red dominates the wedding on the contrary to the white weddings of Western. Red represents joy and its the color of luck. On the wedding day, the bride wears a red dress, a pair of red shoes and a red silk veil. When she awaits for her future-husband to arrive and take her his home, she listens to the advice of an elderly woman for a good marriage.

The groom wears a long red gown, a pair of red shoes, too. He is escorted by his family and close friends to the brides house. When they arrive to the house, the brides family would be waiting for them at the door. They dont allow the groom enter until he overcomes the challenges they prepared for him. He has to negotiate and convince them to let him enter the house.

When the bride is ready to leave, she cries with her mother to show her that she doesnt want to leave. The bride is escorted out by her sisters and/or brothers. While they are walking out to the sedan that will carry her to her new home, rice is thrown. Its very important to protect the bride from evil. Thats why they take precautions such as having curtains on the sedan so that the bride cant see something unpleasant, or they set firecrackers to frighten away the evil spirits.When the bride arrives to her new home, the firecrackers are set, again, before she comes out of the sedan and a red carpet is put on her way.

Once the bride and the groom are inside, they bow three times at the altar to worship the Earth and the Heaven, and show their respect to their ancestors and families. Then they bow to each other and the ceremony begins in the bridal chamber.

Generally they would have grand feast for their guests and the people who helped them during the wedding process to show their respect and thank them. The newly weds are supposed to drink wedding wine while their arms crossed together. They toast for the guests and the guests wish them the best and present their gifts for the newly weds. The gifts are normally cash presented in red envelopes. On the third day of marriage, the couple go back to the brides house and they have tea ceremony. The bride and groom kneels down in front of their parents and the bride serves tea to her parents to show her respect.

Despite the western influences in the recent years, the traditional wedding ceremonies continue to be held in some parts of China. Traditions die hard. Isnt it true?